Refuge Recovery

Man I tell you, I’ve never been on a vacation like this. It’s like some kinda lucid dream or something. Everything that me and my crew want to happen is literally HAPPENING. Well minus the cancellation of Fyre Festival

But I’ll tell you this, there is something huge that got us there. First though, I’d like to tell you a little story about Southwest Airlines.

Back in the 70’s they had a bit of a capital problem. They were faced with either letting go of one their flight schedules or one of their planes.

They ended up letting go one of their schedules and it worked out for them perfectly. Southwest ended up improving their service because they learned how to speed up their service to accommodate the increased capacity.

So what is this really all about?

When you know what you want to do, external circumstances have minimal effect on the outcome. It’s not a matter of work ethic, because people can work their fingers to the bone, but if they don’t have a sense of why they are doing something, they will undoubtedly eventually miss the point.

In respect to our vacation, the point was originally to see a festival, but why we were going down was because we wanted to have fun. So no matter how we did it, we would be happy.

So what’s in it for you? Why do you do what you do? Why do you go to work everyday?

Is it to make money?

Or is there more to what you do?

There is so much you can do to actually be fulfilled in everything you do, and I would encourage you to find it and make it a part of your daily habits.

Be more by finding your true reason for wanting to be more…

 

Jerry “yauchtfugee” Washington

 

 

Authenticity

Authenticity, it’s kinda like one of those

Mythical type words right?

Where like everyone has heard of it

Tried to do it, but only a few succeed in it.

 

Why? Well that’s exactly it…

It’s because often people are trying so

Hard to figure out how, or what, that

They forget why.

 

It’s simple, if you know why you’re

Doing something, the how or what

Becomes relatively unimportant

And usually falls into place somewhere

Along the line.

 

Let’s take television in general.

A successful show starts with why.

Seinfeld, for instance was a show

About quite literally, nothing.

They even said it in their advertising.

 

Of course if it was actually about

Nothing it would have been a

Blank screen for 30 minutes every

Thursday at 9PM.

 

On the surface it was about nothing

But it became popular because it

Was a show that gave us a different

Perspective on our own lives.

 

It wasn’t meant to be a scripted comedy

About ultra successful people or about

A down and out character that just so

Happen to have a beautiful wife and kids

Like every other show at the time. It

Innovated in being the precursor to modern

Reality TV with it’s seemingly non-scripted

Anecdotes and for it’s time, superfluous

Situations.

 

So how does a show about nothing apply

To your authenticity?

 

Well the fact that it was about nothing

Should give you a clue into how powerful

It is to start with a solid sense of why

You are doing something.

 

They wanted to create a show that was

Different from all the others. They

Weren’t concerned so much with

How much money they made (at first)

They just wanted to make a show that

Was different, but yet still creative.

 

You can do the same in your life.

You don’t have to do what everyone

Else is doing just because they seem

To be successful.

 

Maybe you are not supposed to be a

Doctor, or a lawyer. And maybe

Pursuing that will actually make you

Less money and create less happiness

Over your lifetime than if you picked

Something that was more suited for

Your authentic self.

 

What’s important is to, before you

Undertake any activity or try to

Think about what the results will be

Of your actions; try to first think about

Why you are doing what you are doing.

Money is not a good enough motivator

After awhile to get you out of bed in the

Morning, day after day for a job you hate.

Praise, isn’t enough if you simply hoping

To get more praise for doing something

That feels contrived.

 

If you are chasing money, or praise you’re

Actually just chasing results. If you are

Looking to inspire and build a framework

In which people can truly see you are

Different and feel compelled to follow

Your lead, you must first start with “WHY”

 

Jerry “because” Washington

 

P.S. Sometimes these posts get away from

Me and I apologize for that. It’s just that

I get so passionate about helping others

Stop living that zombie life where they

Are simply going through the motions.

There are many reasons why I personally

Do this, but I would say that for the most

Part it’s because I believe that we have

Been taught the wrong thing for so long

And many don’t even realize that they

Have lost hope in creating a living a life

That is authentic and gives them fulfillment.

 

If you suspect that may be you, I would

Like you to consider joining the conversation

With me and a few of my friends in my

Private Facebook group Project SELFFY.

There we talk about what drives us and how

We can all make an impact on the world

That feels appropriate and truly make you

Happy. Talk soon…

Listen All Y’all It’s A Sabotage…

What makes people want to take risks like

Eat exotic foods,

Leave a stable job to start a business,

Or even take a trip to a faraway land?

 

In a word…feelings

 

Today I’d like to talk to you about how

You can use your emotions and feelings to

Intuitively create the good life without

Overthinking every single decision.

 

Ok so first, let me tell you there are 

An infinite number of decisions that

You can make, but only 2 ways to get there…

Through rational thought

Or irrational thought.

 

I’m sure you can imagine that the most 

Exciting times in anyone’s life are lived outside

The realm of rational thinking. 

But I’m not proposing that you go out and do

Whatever comes to mind, 

However, I would like you to consider

What irrationality can do for your life.

 

Imagine your boss walks in and asks you to

Work harder at being a better employee

Or else you’re fired tomorrow, then walks off…

 

You’d probably not even know what

To do or where to start.

Maybe you’d take a look at the company’s

List of values like

Loyalty, hope, innovation, or cooperation.

 

The only problem is that those are inactionable

You can’t be innovation or cooperation

It’s not always helpful to think with our

Rational mind

 

There are four things that we always will have

Will always drive us to our achieve.

Hopes

Dreams

Hearts and

Guts

 

There is an art and a science to getting the

Results you want and it starts with trusting

Your instincts.

 

There is a reason why people say something

Feels right and it’s along the same lines

As why leaders try to win our hearts and minds

Rather than our minds and hearts.

 

Our rational part of our brain controls speech

But it’s our irrational subconscious that really

Is in tune with our true selves.

 

 

Your gut is talking to you and telling you what

To do everyday. It wants you to listen to your heart

It wants you to feel confident

But most of all, it just wants to be express itself

And unlike the rational mind, it

Unfortunately, can’t do that with words.

 

So trust yourself, because there is no amount of

Research that is going to get you to make a better

Decision than the one you can make in your

Gut.

 

Jerry “I believe in you” Washington