Life Just “Lifing”

Good life

I was sitting down talking to some of my buddies a couple of days ago. We were hanging out in my new studio after doing some “remodeling.” We spent the night talking about everything in life. It is interesting to me because most of my buddies are immigrants or children of immigrants just like me.

Personally, I kinda feel like a double immigrant, because my mom’s from Jamaica and I went to school in Alaska. It’s kinda of like a different country up there.  For me as just a normal dude from Alaska, being an entrepreneur in the city of Philadelphia is kinda mind blowing.

I know a lot of people can relate to my story. In fact, I’m almost positive because you are reading this, that you’ve probably done the following yourself. I tried a lot of different jobs, but I always felt like I just wasn’t getting what I needed in terms of fulfillment.  I just couldn’t figure it out, but what I kept thinking to myself is that I need to make more money.

It Was Not About The Money

Everyone has their thing that they believe will make them eternally happy.  For some, it’s fame, some money, others time. Depending on who you are, the value you place on each is variable. For me it was money. I would say to myself. As soon as I have more money I’ll be happy.

That all changed when I started training people that had the millions I was looking for. These people had it all (or at least all I’d be happy with) and they somehow were still unhappy. Some of them complained about how much they have to work, how little they’d see their kids, or even the health of a family member.

It was then I realized that it was never about the money. It’s actually all about balance.

One thing I want to caution you about. Balance is different for everyone. So if you find someone telling you exactly how much of anything you should have in your life, reconsider their advice. There is never any good in being too extreme in your practices. Then you aren’t living an authentic life.

It’s so complicated, but yet so simple. I’ve heard over the years how people search far and wide for the meaning of life and they find it when they come back home to self-discovery. I have to admit that I didn’t follow that belief at first, but the further I explore on this journey, the more I realize that it involves a lot of playful discovery.

I’d like you to consider this before we part ways today. Whatever you believe you need to be happy is wrong. There is nothing outside of yourself that can make you happy. It is when you understand that life simply happens that you find genuine enjoyment in that each experience that comes. Life will “life” with or without your approval, so it’s just better to approve, appreciate, and move on.

 

Jerry “living it up” Washington

P.S.  Once you stop expecting and simply start being open the world changes drastically. At least that’s what it did for me. I realized that when you have money it doesn’t really change you. It just exposes you and if you’re aren’t happy, it just amplifies it. I’ve Seen it hundreds of times and I’m seeing it in myself as well as I begin to become more aware. Something that you might want to think about for yourself as well. If you’d like to chat about it and how you can stop worrying and start winning, just email me here and I’ll do my best to get back to you soon. Talk soon…

This One Thing Will KILL You

Fear, ignorance

Fear. The final frontier. A place that many men and women opt not to explore. Why? Well that’s simple. The unknown can produce some serious anxiety. Think about it, if you could choose between a safe place and not knowing what was gonna happen, which would you go for? Exactly…

You see fear is a funny thing broham. It can teach you lessons about what to avoid, but at the same time, it can also lead you away from those things that will also help you grow as a person. It’s a conundrum really. I mean if you’re not paying attention, you might find yourself in a constant state of stagnation because you’ve let your fears run wild.

Fear is a hard thing to deal with. Biologically, it’s prolonged presence literally does kill you. (Gives new meaning to the phrase “scared to death,” right?) You might be one of 70% of Americans that report feeling stressed on a daily basis and that’s one of the main reasons for the decline in our life expectancy.

But Isn’t It What I Eat?

It’s not Twinkies, it’s not fast food, it’s stress and most of it is coming from the fear we have everyday about living an authentic life. You’re afraid to be yourself because you’re afraid that people will judge you. Maybe it’s your parents, or your friends, or even your spouse. But the most important thing to remember is that it’s not what’s going on outside that matters.

What you have going on between your left and right ears is the cause to many of your problems. But it’s not your fault, your parents and the people around you when you were younger didn’t know better. They taught you the same tactics and strategies they had for coping with fear and stress. Where the problem lies, is that many of those strategies are ineffective.

I want you to consider however, that there is a way to conquer fear and make it your bitch. There is a way to use fear instead of letting it use you. Because you have been so programmed to believe that you should just follow all the rules it may seem like fear is a natural thing that lets you know when you’ve gone to far, but this is not the case and I want to prove it to you.

Unfortunately, I can’t do it today, I’m outta time. I’ll tell you what though. If you leave a comment below, I promise to respond (unless it’s spam) Otherwise you can shoot me a message HERE

Jerry “afraid of (mostly) nothing” Washington

 

P.S.  Some people might read this and say that fear is helpful for them and I would agree. In certain cases, rational fear is your ultimate ally. You feel a little funny about jumping out of a plane with no parachute? That’s pretty rational. But it’s the irrational fears that prevent you from getting that good stuff from life. Talk soon…

I May Not Have Much…

I unfortunately don’t have much for you today. 🙁 I have been hard at work trying to get this gym ready. I appreciate you checking in, however so I won’t leave you empty-handed…Let’s talk about happiness.

Today I got in my TRX suspension trainers. I was so excited at first I was jumping up and down and yelling about how I wanted to try them out right now! (They’re hanging from my door as we speak) But the thing is that right after I hung them up and did a few exercises, the excitement died down. Like way down.

And that’s what I want you to think about today. All our lives many of us search for the next thing to make you happy, but every time you get it, you’re sadly disappointed that it doesn’t give you the everlasting happiness you thought it would bring.

I don’t about you, but I almost feel worse after I get something that I’ve been chomping at the bit to acquire. Before we part ways today, I want you to consider this. There is a man under a bridge right now that’s happier with less. Of course that’s probably a bit nuanced, but the point’s still valid.

Less is more.

Jerry “…” Washington

 

P.S. I hate to write like this on the fly, but sometimes it turns out to be my best work. If you’ve been tuning in, leave a comment below and tell me what you think. And answer this question while you’re at it. What is the present that you most remember receiving in your life. As for me, it was a Nintendo in 1989 and I still have most of the games. Talk soon…

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