Life Just “Lifing”

Good life

I was sitting down talking to some of my buddies a couple of days ago. We were hanging out in my new studio after doing some “remodeling.” We spent the night talking about everything in life. It is interesting to me because most of my buddies are immigrants or children of immigrants just like me.

Personally, I kinda feel like a double immigrant, because my mom’s from Jamaica and I went to school in Alaska. It’s kinda of like a different country up there.  For me as just a normal dude from Alaska, being an entrepreneur in the city of Philadelphia is kinda mind blowing.

I know a lot of people can relate to my story. In fact, I’m almost positive because you are reading this, that you’ve probably done the following yourself. I tried a lot of different jobs, but I always felt like I just wasn’t getting what I needed in terms of fulfillment.  I just couldn’t figure it out, but what I kept thinking to myself is that I need to make more money.

It Was Not About The Money

Everyone has their thing that they believe will make them eternally happy.  For some, it’s fame, some money, others time. Depending on who you are, the value you place on each is variable. For me it was money. I would say to myself. As soon as I have more money I’ll be happy.

That all changed when I started training people that had the millions I was looking for. These people had it all (or at least all I’d be happy with) and they somehow were still unhappy. Some of them complained about how much they have to work, how little they’d see their kids, or even the health of a family member.

It was then I realized that it was never about the money. It’s actually all about balance.

One thing I want to caution you about. Balance is different for everyone. So if you find someone telling you exactly how much of anything you should have in your life, reconsider their advice. There is never any good in being too extreme in your practices. Then you aren’t living an authentic life.

It’s so complicated, but yet so simple. I’ve heard over the years how people search far and wide for the meaning of life and they find it when they come back home to self-discovery. I have to admit that I didn’t follow that belief at first, but the further I explore on this journey, the more I realize that it involves a lot of playful discovery.

I’d like you to consider this before we part ways today. Whatever you believe you need to be happy is wrong. There is nothing outside of yourself that can make you happy. It is when you understand that life simply happens that you find genuine enjoyment in that each experience that comes. Life will “life” with or without your approval, so it’s just better to approve, appreciate, and move on.

 

Jerry “living it up” Washington

P.S.  Once you stop expecting and simply start being open the world changes drastically. At least that’s what it did for me. I realized that when you have money it doesn’t really change you. It just exposes you and if you’re aren’t happy, it just amplifies it. I’ve Seen it hundreds of times and I’m seeing it in myself as well as I begin to become more aware. Something that you might want to think about for yourself as well. If you’d like to chat about it and how you can stop worrying and start winning, just email me here and I’ll do my best to get back to you soon. Talk soon…

How To Live The Life You Deserve

life, FAMILY, FITNESS, FUN, FULFILMENT

Live it up they say. (They meaning the epicureans) That was the life they chose to live. It was a life focused mainly on material possessions and the old Drake saying “Y.O.L.O.” It was kind of amazing that they lived as long as they did and so their beliefs have stood throughout time as a shining of example of “not giving a fuck.”

But wait, that can’t be it, because around the same time there were a few characters around that called themselves the stoics. They wouldn’t do anything that pleased them. It was almost as if abstaining was a pleasure to them. They were like buddhist and hindu monks that never partake in any type of pleasure.

Needless to say, these two opposing beliefs existed and coexisted leading to create some of our modern day tenets of religion.

Ok enough with the history lesson, I just needed to provide a little backdrop for this knowledge I’m bout to drop on you about how I discovered the secret to time travel. Time travel?! Really? Ok I just had to get your attention. Not, time travel, but something close…

The Good Life

You see as my boy Tai Lopez says all the time. “Everyone’s looking for the good life, but not everyone gets the good life.”  It’s pretty clear cut, we all know someone who clearly isn’t living up to their potential, but I want to talk about what stops most people from getting there.

The biggest problem that most people face today is that they are living in the future. In today’s fast pace world where we rarely have to wait for anything, we’ve become brainwashed to believe that if we don’t see, hear, or feel anything that it’s not worth our time and people for the most part have been dabblers in finding what makes them happy.

I don’t have time to go into detail, but I do want you pay attention to this next phrase and see if you recognize it.

I’ll be happy when ________

That was my mantra while I hustled and grinded and withheld everything from myself until I went just about crazy sedating with booze, porno, and other things I wouldn’t want mamma bear to know about. Then when I’d get those things, I’d feel so empty and the only way I’d get out of my funk was by planning the next “thing” I wanted to get.

This applies to a lot of people and I’m sure you can even identify a point in your life where you’ve all but given up and you just kept hoping that the future would get better.  Well it doesn’t unless you do this ONE thing….

Protect your confidence at all costs!

How do you do that? Well I’ve run out of time here, but I would love to chat with you about about it. Email me here or leave a comment in the space provided below.

Jerry “stoicurean” Washington

P.S. The reason why I chose that moniker for today is because living the good life is a fine balance of building confidence and building discipline. It’s not easy, but there are a few simple tricks and tips that I’ve learned that have taken me (and will take you if you ask) to the next level in terms of everyday performance and value I feel I’m giving to the world.  You wanna pick up some of what I’m laying down? Just shoot me an email. That simple. Talk soon…

 

You Only Have Perspective

As a military brat, I’ve been privy to a lot of things that civilians might not necessary be exposed to, but access to the best mental health professionals is not one you would think of immediately.

 

But when you think about it, with all those families moving and wars being fought you gotta talk to someone right???

 

Well, before I moved up to Alaska to finish off high school, I had talked to one of those aforementioned health professionals and the advice I got is probably some of the most useful advice I’ve gotten to this day. In fact, it’s so useful that I’m kind of ashamed that I haven’t revealed this sooner as many of my clients and friends could use this advice with their own families.

 

You see there are many people that experience pain from not being present. If you don’t know what I mean, consider this: you’re somewhere swimming in a beautiful ocean, but you can’t stop wondering if you left the iron on at home. Presence is key to understanding your feelings and enjoying the moment.

 

You might relate to this if you’ve got a family but also have a job. For some, it’s a constant juggling act both physically and emotional as it pertains to spending time at work or with your family.

 

But here’s the answer! If you’ve ever beat yourself up or feel guilty about leaving either work or home you’re gonna wanna read this life “hack.”

 

The thing is that when you are feeling guilty, you cut yourself off from any possibility of change. It’s with that possibility you can feel remorse and actually have the ability to go back and observe your feelings so that you can think of ways you can communicate them.

 

And here’s the real world application. As I was moving up to Alaska I had this terrible feeling in the pit of my stomach that wasn’t relieved until I actually told my friends, family, and anyone who would listen, that I didn’t want to move and that I truly had fun getting to know them.

 

That was it, that’s all it takes brozilla. Don’t push your feelings down, because they never get dealt with. All that causes is anxiety that feeds guilt. And that guilt goes on to feed more anxiety.

 

Keep those feelings on the surface. Be aware of them, express them and let people know because they might be feeling the same thing and you just might turn out to be a hero because everyone else was thinking the same thing, but didn’t have the wherewithal to speak up.

 

So in short, be a hero by being aware of your own feelings and making it a priority to express them.

 

Jerry “mover and (butt) shaker” Washington

P.S. Tell your family and friends that you love them at any and every possibility. Because you can’t come back from guilt, but you can always change your feelings about remorse. Talk soon…