Why Do Happy People Live Longer?

In a word?  Oxytocin

It controls happiness, inhibits addiction and

Boosts your immune system.


But let’s back up for a sec.

What is this Oxytocin and how can you

Make it in your basement? HA!

Well for starters, they don’t really have

An effective over the counter.


Oxytocin is a chemical made up by

The grey goo between your ears and

It only pops up when you, my friend

Are doing something that you identify

As fulfilling.




Yeah, believe me, if you could get a legit

Version of this stuff you could probably be

The biggest drug dealer, ehem…pharmacist

In the world.


The problem is, that many people mistaken

It with a chemical called dopamine.

Dopamine is released often times when we’re

In some sort of pain.


Like when you go for a long run or when

You exercise and you feel good afterward.

You are actually breaking your body down, but

To compensate, your brain releases dopamine

So you can feel better.


So what’s the big deal?

Why is it bad to confuse dopamine with oxytocin?

Well there are quite a few reasons, one is that

You don’t have to work very hard to get dopamine.

Just go for a run, lift some weights, maybe even

Drink a beer or two


But there is one very important reason why

You should consider trying to get your brain

Hooked on oxytocin, besides of course

The obvious living longer part…


Imma make this simple because it took me

Years to understand this, but in short

Dopamine is a “you” hormone and

Oxytocin is a “we” hormone.

What do I mean?


Well, simple. As I said before it’s

Pretty easy to get dopamine.

But to get oxytocin, you have to give.


The best way to have your gray matter

Start producing the chemical informally

Known as the “love hormone” is do the

Things that start relationships.


When you give, you take the first step

To communicating to someone that

Yes, you are open to giving and receiving.


You will find that the very act of giving

Creates a feel good cycle. As that cycle continues

Your oxytocin levels increase while your reliance

On dopamine goes down faster than

A hooker in Amsterdam.


There is much more to this of course

And I would like to discuss this more

With you, but I’m outta time.


So what you can do is join the conversation

Me and a few friends started where we’re

Talking about even more ways you can create

Real lasting happiness in your life.

Click the link below to join my private

Facebook group Project SELFFY


Jerry “happy to help” Washington


P.S. Another strike against dopamine is the after effects.

You can’t live on dopamine. To create it, your body draws

From your immune system and growth system.

Eventually, that get’s used up and you get sick.


Oh and I forgot, Cortisol, another hormone

Is present as well during times of stress

When your dopamine drops it’s still there so

Stresses hating your job, become like a poison drip

And will eventually kill you. Don’t let stress kill you.

Let’s talk about how we can help you live longer

Click here. Talk soon…

“Not” Good Enough

I admit, simply writing those words in the title of this here 
Letter/email/infotainment piece really   gives me a bit of an
Arousal factor that makes my spine and maybe something else
A little lower tingle just a little. 
When I used to hear those words, I would go to a really dark place
I don’t know about you, but I’ve been called some pretty nasty things
But for some reason, when someone said I was not good enough 
I would always get triggered.
But after awhile, I don’t know if it’s age, or you just start caring less
Or both
But I eventually came to the conclusion that the more you try to be
Good enough for everybody, the less you are good enough for somebody.
But the problem is that most of us don’t end up realizing that fact until 
You’ve banged your head up against the wall over 100 times trying to get 
Everyone to like you only to eventually take a brief moment to look around
To everyone else doing exactly the same…

When things are down, we all need someone to look up to. 

And I apparently became that person to a young 20 year old in West Philly

About 4 months ago. 

I met this young lad a little while back.

He actually stopped me at a stop light while he was standing

In front of a store in West Philly know for drug deals. 

He tells me a little about himself and he tells me that he sees

That I might be able to help him “get out of the hood” as he said.

So in one of our first meetings, we talked about “alternative sources of income”

And we talked about it for a few months after that until he came up with an idea

Fast forward 4 months later

That kid standing on the corner trying to sell dreams 

To pay rent is now taking his first trip on a plane

To network in ways that he never thought possible 

I think back to when he first asked me to mentor him.

He confessed to me many times that he didn’t think he was good enough.

Hell man, I thought a few times with him, I’m not good enough

Everyone can relate to feeling like you’re not good enough.

But the most important thing you can take from this message is

That sometimes it’s better to at least be “not good enough” 

Than to suck so bad that your efforts aren’t even recognized. 

Jerry “good enough” Washington

P.S. It’s really important to recognize that we all have feelings of 

Inadequacy in some way or another at any given time. 

What  I’d like you to consider is that, sometimes others will say

You aren’t good enough, but you have to appreciate that by giving you their attention

They’ve just shown you it just might be that

You aren’t good enough…yet. Talk soon…