Fear = Dishonor

Fear is a mountain

There are so many things out there that we don’t understand. I for one, could not figure out how to use Google analytics for the life of me. So yesterday I sat down, determined to figure out what in the world I could do to understand all those numbers and abbreviations. And what it added up to was fear…

Let me fill you in on what I mean. After about an hour, I came across something amazing. I found that I had quite a few people going to my site, but I was quickly disappointed when I went followed the links to where they went.

You see, I came across four (4) blogs around the world that were pretty much using this blog for fodder. They would read what I wrote, put my words down and then throw their own spin on it.

The thing is, I’m not upset that when people copy. In fact, I’m honored, the problem is that these people didn’t even approach me. And it’s not really even that, the real issue is why…

You see the reason WHY I write these DAILY blogs is to reach out to people. I want us to discuss issues that affect us all. I am reaching out because I would like to start a conversation about these subjects. It’s not for you to read and then go on about your way.

So lurkers. plagiarists, and all you first time visitors, listen up! I’m not mad, (it takes a lot more than that) but I want you to consider something. The only reason why we dishonor ourselves or anyone else is not because we are bad people set on sucking whatever value possible from whomever. No it’s not because we are bad, but it’s because of fear.

Fear of putting your OWN voice out there.

Of what people will think

That you just might not be good enough

But honestly, broham the longer you project something you’re not the longer you will live in fear. So if you truly want to make a difference in the world with your words and your thoughts, make sure that they are genuinely your own.


Jerry “reaching out” Washington


P.S. I hope this blog peaks your interest, I would like you to consider subscribing so you can get updated when the next one comes out. (Tomorrow) Conversely, if you don’t think I’ve sparked your interest enough to warrant a subscription, shoot me a message here contact page, or leave a message below and tell me what you’d like to hear about as it pertains to living the good life.

Listen All Y’all It’s A Sabotage…

What makes people want to take risks like

Eat exotic foods,

Leave a stable job to start a business,

Or even take a trip to a faraway land?


In a word…feelings


Today I’d like to talk to you about how

You can use your emotions and feelings to

Intuitively create the good life without

Overthinking every single decision.


Ok so first, let me tell you there are 

An infinite number of decisions that

You can make, but only 2 ways to get there…

Through rational thought

Or irrational thought.


I’m sure you can imagine that the most 

Exciting times in anyone’s life are lived outside

The realm of rational thinking. 

But I’m not proposing that you go out and do

Whatever comes to mind, 

However, I would like you to consider

What irrationality can do for your life.


Imagine your boss walks in and asks you to

Work harder at being a better employee

Or else you’re fired tomorrow, then walks off…


You’d probably not even know what

To do or where to start.

Maybe you’d take a look at the company’s

List of values like

Loyalty, hope, innovation, or cooperation.


The only problem is that those are inactionable

You can’t be innovation or cooperation

It’s not always helpful to think with our

Rational mind


There are four things that we always will have

Will always drive us to our achieve.



Hearts and



There is an art and a science to getting the

Results you want and it starts with trusting

Your instincts.


There is a reason why people say something

Feels right and it’s along the same lines

As why leaders try to win our hearts and minds

Rather than our minds and hearts.


Our rational part of our brain controls speech

But it’s our irrational subconscious that really

Is in tune with our true selves.



Your gut is talking to you and telling you what

To do everyday. It wants you to listen to your heart

It wants you to feel confident

But most of all, it just wants to be express itself

And unlike the rational mind, it

Unfortunately, can’t do that with words.


So trust yourself, because there is no amount of

Research that is going to get you to make a better

Decision than the one you can make in your



Jerry “I believe in you” Washington



Seriously?…You Can’t Do ANYTHING?!

Hey did I ever tell you about that time I got 

My bike stolen?

It was the same day that my back window

Got smashed in.

How do I remember?

Because the person that stole my bike

Had to smash my car window to get

To my bike that was in the car.



NE hoo, it’s kinduva crazy story

It was when I worked at a middle

School in the not so nice part of town.

I think Will Smith would have had 

His hands full with the type of people

That made trouble in these neighborhoods


So one day I go out at lunchtime

To find my trunk open and my bike missing.

As I went to close the trunk, I hear a

Crunching sound and see pieces

Of my back window fall onto the trunk


Through my now 1/4 convertible

I could see that there was a huge rock

That had apparently went through my

Window, bounced off my radio and

Fell onto the passenger side floor mat.

‘Nother bummer…


So now I’m a grown man stalking campus 

Asking other grown men if they’ve seen

My bicycle. 

I couldn’t have felt more low until I 

In fact, found another grown-up who

Had seen my bicycle and saw when

Someone took it.


Oh hellz yeah! 

I was ready to rampage!!

What did he look like? Let’s catch him

Then use him as the support beam 

For a bike ramp.


“It was a kid,” he said

And my heart immediately sank…


But he said he saw it all on camera

Because he was the security guard.

Part of me was excited, but another

Part of me kinda wondered like

WTF is he getting paid for if he 

Literally saw someone break into

My car and decided that it would

Be better to wait to tell the person

That he saw what happened 

Rather than you know…

Maybe doing something?!?!


So anyway, we call the cops

Cuz you know we got 

Security cameras so at least

We know who did it.



So now the police are there

And they’ve come out of their

Cars to ask for a statement from

The security guard (main witness)

They go back with him to look at

The video tape and come back out

About 5 minutes later with empty

Notepads and pens in pockets


They start walking towards me and

Without missing a beat, ask me if

I’d like to even file a report because

Chances are they wouldn’t even

Find the kid who did it.


Of course not with that attitude!

I thought to myself…

But what I actually said was,

Didn’t you find anything on the video?

They turn and say that they couldn’t

Really do anything because the quality

Of the video was too low. They couldn’t

Make out a face.


Great, so security thinks they’re

Watching reality television on a really low

Quality screen all day.

The police have no confidence that they

Can solve crimes and the only redeeming

Quality about the whole situation is that

I know it was a human being.


Awesome! At least we now know it’s not

Some pissed off hawk that had had

Enough of humans and was going on a

Crime spree.


I don’t know where I am really going

From here, I just thought it was a funny


The police never found my bike, nor did

We ever get to find out who broke my window

Although it was clearly a kid from the school.


There is one thing that is true however,

This is a story, it most likely didn’t happen

Exactly this way, because I’m relying on

My memory.


This one got away from me, but let me

Share something with you.

Memory is a fickle thing, you can believe

In it, but it doesn’t mean it will always

Serve you well. I meant to tell a story

About a famous study about memory

But I’ll just leave you with this instead:


Your mind makes up stories that help

Your memory fit the context of your

Current state of mind. Memory is

Rarely 100% accurate, but what

Matters most is that your memories

Accurate or not, should help

Serve you in making decisions in

The future that will help you to

Create more positive memories.


Jerry “memories” Washington


P.S. What side did the rock fall on

In my car? Don’t remember? It’s

Probably because your mind didn’t

Find it to be an important detail.

I would like you to consider that

Our memory isn’t perfect and neither

Is anyone on this planet.

We all want to improve however and

Although our memory supposedly gets

Worse when you get older, you can

Actually improve your life overall

With help from your friends at

Project SELFFY. Talk soon…