I panicked and contemplated all the things that I wanted to do with her that I hadn’t. Then it struck me, I COULD have done all those things before, but I didn’t. Why? Well because I thought I had time. I would like you to consider that time is precious. So precious in fact, that it’s the only thing in this universe that’s not replenishable. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.
My mom was leaving me and there was nothing I could do (except scream FUCK CANCER every time I was alone). I had to do something, if not for her, for me to honor her life.
So what did I do to change? What can you do? Well, for starters, you have to want to change. Change doesn’t normally just happen, so you have to want it bad enough that you’ll take action. Most people do pretty well getting to that stage.
The next and arguably most important step is to hold yourself accountable. That’s where a lot of people get tripped up, including me! But I’ll tell you how I got through that. Now, you’ll need to pay attention because this is important.
The best way to stay accountable is to ask for help. I know, I know, it’s hard asking for help. You’d rather just deal with your problems yourself. But the thing I would like you to consider is how well has that worked for you so. Personally, I struggled for about 3 years with depression because I had to work through some personal stuff and I tell you it was hell. But it wasn’t until I found a mentor I could talk to and rely on that I really started to see a change.
Look, we’re social creatures we weren’t meant to do things all on our own. Some problems are simply too big for us to try to conquer on our own. I would love to help you, but you have to want to be helped. The way I see it, right now you have one of two choices. You can continue doing things the way you always have, or you can make a change, ask for help and start getting the results you want.
Your choice. Click here if you believe your time is valuable.
Jerry “still here” Washington
P.S. I wish there was some way to go back in time. I would change my default setting from “blaming” to “accountable.” The biggest thing that all my mentors have taught me is that everything that happens to me good and bad is because of something I did. I had to learn that nothing ever happens to you (even when it does). Playing the victim and blaming others (even when it’s their fault) is the best way to ensure that you will stay exactly where you are. Talk soon…