Motivation? Maybe Just Stick To Master…

motivation or something else

Motivation. Seriously, everybody is shouting from the rooftops that they have it.  The problem is though, that those very people shouting their motivation are often (relatively) speaking. Seriously, how motivated could someone actually be if the majority of their time is spent trying to convince the world of their level of motivation?

You see, the problem here isn’t motivation, it’s attitude. Anyone, can jump up and down and scream “look at me, I’m motivated.” The key for you though is not to try to convince others of your motivation. It’s better to first try to convince yourself.

But let me back up for a second, I tend to jump around sometimes and get a little side tracked, but bear with me. I’m gonna try to lay this out in an organized manner.

Your Attitude Sucks, Change It Don't cry, don't wish, do you.

<—-See pictures and ^^^^ subheadings…getting a little fancy here. But I digress. Most people are starting backward when they get up in the morning. They open their eyes after they’ve hit snooze a few times and then they –if they haven’t hit snooze too many times– think about what their life is like right now, but base it all on the past. They think about how their boss pisses them off, or the bills that they have to pay, the weight they have to lose, and so on and so forth. You know what I’m talking about. All that stuff that makes you NOT want to get out of the bed in the morning.

Try this one on for size. Eckhart Tolle wrote in his book The Power of Now about how the future is an illusion because it hasn’t happened, but so is your past. Your past is also an illusion because even though it did exist, the fact still remains that all that really exist now is a memory. Even what you did 5 seconds ago…straight memories yo. Illusions in your mind.

So where am I getting with all this new agey mumbo jumbo? What do illusions have to do with your attitude? Well my feathered friend, if you aren’t paying attention to RIGHT NOW then you are living in an illusion.  And living in an illusion, for all intents and purposes, is what most would define as insanity, to put it bluntly.

What is most important is what is happening right…NOW…NOW……….NOW…NOW. The point here is that in every moment you have a choice. You can live the world of insanity (which most do, so don’t feel bad) or Now.

So then how do you change the attitude? You start by first being able to focus your mind so that it doesn’t follow every single thought down a thought train. So one way to stop that is to focus on the present. Setting aside some time to meditate is a great way to get practice in staying present to each moment without wandering. And remember, meditation doesn’t necessarily have to be some ritual. You don’t have to lose motivation over a lack of sagebrush in the house. Just check out this method of easy and effective meditation that I use consistently.

Be Strong And Support Others 

The very definition of being strong is to be able to lift heavy things up that others normally couldn’t lift or carry. Some do it with weights, some with money, others emotions, but we all have someone we know that is strong in some area or another and could really help others. On the other hand, it’s often hard to recognize strengths when you are paralyzed by fear.

People are born innocent. We have no hopes, no aspirations, no fears. Nothing, just innocence. Somehow along the way, however, we develop the hopes of doing something grand, and we develop fears. We aspire to be great and then we shoot ourselves down. We shoot each other down. It becomes a perpetual cycle because people have no idea what means to truly be strong.

Now I’m not saying to go out and become and saint and help others at the expense of your own well-being. I mean honestly, if that gets you off, be my guest, but I’m gonna tell you this: the key to building up a solid foundation is to first build yourself up. If your goal is to really have a lasting impact and help others, it can’t be so it can cover up an insecurity that you may have about something else. Like, think of it as help because it feels good, not because you’re trying to cover up something else that feels bad.

It really starts with how you choose to frame the world and what type of language you use in it. For instance, if you constantly see the world as a struggle, you are going to use language that reflects that and that subsequently (nice word) leads you to subconsciously commit to actions that would make your perception accurate.

In essence, if you think weak, you will be weak. But on top of that, you never truly help others. Your attention instead of engaging in adapting to an environment (like humans have done for hundreds of thousands of years) is always fixated on how a very small fraction of the universe (you) benefits from each interaction. Every (inter)action, no matter how seemingly powerful, will be transparent as people will see the real motivation for your actions. So in other words, practicing authenticity (honesty) gives you strength to be supportive of someone other than yourself.

Motivation or Master…Looking like a fool with your pants on the ground

Or maybe motivation for masterba…ok never mind. But get this brozilla, sometimes you just don’t feel like it. A lot of people beat themselves up over it. Stop *ahem* beating yourself and maybe join yourself….Ok, that was just weird…

Let’s imagine for a moment, a castle. At the base of the castle, is your attitude. It’s the foundation you build your life on. If that foundation is good, then you can start putting some pretty cool stuff on it. Eventually, that stuff becomes motivation.

Motivation is good, it can help you get stuff done. But that’s not where it stops. Nope, not even. From there you continue building your motivation till it becomes inspiration. Now you go out and crush it and you inspire others to do it as well. Not, because they see you running your head through the walls. It’s because they see WHY you are running your head through the wall and they want to do it with you because they believe in you.

The best way to start the path to motivation is to start the path to health. And I’m not talking about losing 5 pounds in five days. Or the latest cleanse, or tablets, or whatever the hell people are trying to peddle as “healthy lifestyles” these days.

What I’m talking about here is Family, Fitness, Fun, and Fulfillment. Consider practicing making that your frame for your future thoughts. This will lead to actions that ensure that you will ALWAYS be motivated.

Jerry “been working on this one” Washington

P.S. I’ve been thinking about motivation lately. I’ve offered a discussion to my Philadelphia group and we will be meeting at my training studio in Bala Cynwyd. If you’re interested and in the area, I’d love for you to stop by.  Just shoot me a message here by clicking this link. Talk soon…

Competitive: To Be Or NOT To Be

Hands down, the answer to this question is absolutely unanimous. I mean seriously you’re reading this RIGHT NOW because of the fact that competition exists. The whole basis of human creation is based on the males (and their man juice) to be competitive when courting a lady. Not to mention the actual act of conception where the aforementioned man juice fights to be the one to relocate and well, the rest is history.

So why do people avoid competition? Why are so many people afraid of bumping heads with someone? To tell you the truth, social norms have led us to stop pushing each other in lieu of cooperation. Which, in itself, is not a bad thing, but often times what happens is that one side tends to slack off or in some cases, take advantage.

We can all recall a time when you were working with someone and all of a sudden they weren’t pulling their own weight. They would make excuses for poor performance or simply settle for a mediocre result. If you can’t think of a time, then you might be that other person.

I digress…

What I’m saying here is that although fighting is not always necessarily good, competition is something that we all experience in everyday life. Don’t fool yourself, every single one of use NEEDS TO be competitive in some way or another. There are limited resources, but if we compete, (rather than fight) the likelihood that we will innovate is inevitable.

So those of you that think we don’t need to be competitive. I think you need to wake up because the world around you is a very competitive world. The best thing to do is to put your big boy/girl clothes on and compete. Because honestly, briznit, no one can exist without competition, even if it’s only competing against herself.

Jerry “compete, don’t fight” Washington

P.S. I just want to make something clear, I’m not advocating fighting. That’s something completely different. Even so, a good-natured debate or a test of wit and skill in something physical is not out of bounds. All I’m getting at here is that you should never allow yourself to live the status quo your whole life. Yes, there are times when it’s useful but for the most part, I think it is important to navigate where you need to diverge from the path and carve your own trail. Talk soon…

This One Thing Will KILL You

Fear, ignorance

Fear. The final frontier. A place that many men and women opt not to explore. Why? Well that’s simple. The unknown can produce some serious anxiety. Think about it, if you could choose between a safe place and not knowing what was gonna happen, which would you go for? Exactly…

You see fear is a funny thing broham. It can teach you lessons about what to avoid, but at the same time, it can also lead you away from those things that will also help you grow as a person. It’s a conundrum really. I mean if you’re not paying attention, you might find yourself in a constant state of stagnation because you’ve let your fears run wild.

Fear is a hard thing to deal with. Biologically, it’s prolonged presence literally does kill you. (Gives new meaning to the phrase “scared to death,” right?) You might be one of 70% of Americans that report feeling stressed on a daily basis and that’s one of the main reasons for the decline in our life expectancy.

But Isn’t It What I Eat?

It’s not Twinkies, it’s not fast food, it’s stress and most of it is coming from the fear we have everyday about living an authentic life. You’re afraid to be yourself because you’re afraid that people will judge you. Maybe it’s your parents, or your friends, or even your spouse. But the most important thing to remember is that it’s not what’s going on outside that matters.

What you have going on between your left and right ears is the cause to many of your problems. But it’s not your fault, your parents and the people around you when you were younger didn’t know better. They taught you the same tactics and strategies they had for coping with fear and stress. Where the problem lies, is that many of those strategies are ineffective.

I want you to consider however, that there is a way to conquer fear and make it your bitch. There is a way to use fear instead of letting it use you. Because you have been so programmed to believe that you should just follow all the rules it may seem like fear is a natural thing that lets you know when you’ve gone to far, but this is not the case and I want to prove it to you.

Unfortunately, I can’t do it today, I’m outta time. I’ll tell you what though. If you leave a comment below, I promise to respond (unless it’s spam) Otherwise you can shoot me a message HERE

Jerry “afraid of (mostly) nothing” Washington

 

P.S.  Some people might read this and say that fear is helpful for them and I would agree. In certain cases, rational fear is your ultimate ally. You feel a little funny about jumping out of a plane with no parachute? That’s pretty rational. But it’s the irrational fears that prevent you from getting that good stuff from life. Talk soon…